The Rings of Relationship

I would like to share you about the four rings in a relationship. Most are wearing rings in their finger, but there are some who do not, but these four rings affects the relationship. We have to understand and accept these rings because it is part of our life.

The First is Engagement Ring, it started when you put seal in your relationship and start committing yourself to each other.

Second is Wedding Ring, you let God to put seal in your relationship that only death can separate it.

Third is Suffering, the previous rings brings joy and inspiration, but this ring will not. This will bring difficult test to your relationship.

How Should We Listen?

The most important part of communication is listening. We should understand the presence of  our two ears and one mouth, we have to listen carefully. We have to yield, submit, and accept in the process of communicating. Do not insist on reason and ideas, because you will have the opposite which is resistance and refusal. Learn the different process of communicating, practice it and then carefully implement.

Here are some possible way to improve your listening skill;

1. Stay quite; while others are talking, listen carefully.
2. Nod or say yes; if you get it.
3. Smile, to show your appreciation.
4. Look at his eyes and not on anything else.
5. Reach out after your agreement.
6. Have some touch to let them feel your sympathy.
7. Recognize and appreciate for the information you have learn and earn.

Reinventing Relationship

The presence of different technology we have right now affect the way we relate to others.
The situation; the presence of cellphone, internet, and different gadgets had given us excuse to be related in person. The hectic schedule we have with business and object, replace the precious time that we must have with fellow. The monitor and camera had taken the part for us to be shown in person. Some of us are afraid or a shamed to show and express ourselves in person, while brave to type anything on keyboard and keypad. We are more comfortable to send email, chat, and text, than to say and express it in words and in actions.

The problem; the ties and bonds of relation slowly disbanded. The relationship in a family, relatives, clans, and friends continue to deteriorate. We have formulated different solutions, but not solutions to have better relationship. We have build buildings and houses, but not families with better relationship. We form union and organizations of people, but not intimate relation that will give respect to each other as a person. We accumulate and reach higher stages of learning, but we don't have closer relation and interaction with each other.

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Communication that Imparts Love.

Communication, the art of relating, saying what we feel and mean. It is the easiest process to connect and share, listening and understanding what others will say to be sure that we have heard and get his message accurately.
The development of communication system in our time enables man on earth to relate with other man in the moon. But it is sad that mother can't talk and understand her daughter, father can't guide and get the opinion of his son, some culture won't accept other culture, labor can't reach the management, and democracy can't grasp the  demand of our fellow who idealize communism.
How can love be imparted through communication when we seldom talk about it? It is very rare that we discuss about it, we discuss business, life of other people, our goals, and what happen to our place and in other places. But we don't talk about love that connects the relation. In a relationship, blood or friendship, the aspect about love often disregarded. Sometimes, we give more value and time to our pets and things compared to relationship we have to our fellow.