Do you agree that distance relationship is better?

A new study shows that couples who are living apart are happier in their relationship than couples that live together, and they also feel more committed and less trapped. When you live apart, you actively work on commitment and trust; it's never taken for granted. You have time for yourself. And because sex whenever you want it isn't as available to you as it is when you live with someone, you don't let too many opportunities to actually have it pass you by.

The statement from the abstract of the study as it shown below support it;

What we must know to become happy

  There is a wonderful fable that tells of a young girl who is walking through a meadow when she sees a butterfly impaled upon a thorn. Very carefully she releases it and the butterfly starts to fly away. Then it comes back and changes into a beautiful good fairy. "For your kindness," she tells the little girl, "I will grant you your fondest wish." The little girl thinks for a moment and replies, "I want to be happy." The fairy leans toward her and whispers in her ear and then suddenly vanishes.

Knowing and Relating to Form Better Relationship

  There is no being or becoming without relationship. from the beginning, we grow to sense the need and import of relatedness. We human beings have the longest period of dependency among any living creature. At birth, in total helplessness, we engage in our first coupling, mother-child, and from that time on, the more sophisticated our lives become, the more interrelated we become. In a sense, we spend our entire existence weaving one relationship into another until we've created, like the web of a spider, a complete pattern.

  Our very survival seems to depend upon our relationships. In childhood, if we are denied loving encounters with human beings, we wither, fall into psychosis, idiocy, or die.As adults we continue to depend upon our interactions in togetherness for our greater joys and our most significant growth. We take this process for granted. It seems to be only in moments when we experience disconnection, times when we are severed from close relationship-either by death, divorce, or physical separations that tear our closeness apart and leave us alone-that is becomes apparent. It is strange, then, that even knowing of our desperate need for relating, we continue through much of our lives to engage in thoughtless, vacuous behavior which only results in isolating us further.

The Rings of Relationship

I would like to share you about the four rings in a relationship. Most are wearing rings in their finger, but there are some who do not, but these four rings affects the relationship. We have to understand and accept these rings because it is part of our life.

The First is Engagement Ring, it started when you put seal in your relationship and start committing yourself to each other.

Second is Wedding Ring, you let God to put seal in your relationship that only death can separate it.

Third is Suffering, the previous rings brings joy and inspiration, but this ring will not. This will bring difficult test to your relationship.

How Should We Listen?

The most important part of communication is listening. We should understand the presence of  our two ears and one mouth, we have to listen carefully. We have to yield, submit, and accept in the process of communicating. Do not insist on reason and ideas, because you will have the opposite which is resistance and refusal. Learn the different process of communicating, practice it and then carefully implement.

Here are some possible way to improve your listening skill;

1. Stay quite; while others are talking, listen carefully.
2. Nod or say yes; if you get it.
3. Smile, to show your appreciation.
4. Look at his eyes and not on anything else.
5. Reach out after your agreement.
6. Have some touch to let them feel your sympathy.
7. Recognize and appreciate for the information you have learn and earn.